Virginity

Thusly quoth TechZero:

Virginity is a quality that is rare in today's world. I, for one, find this quality extremely sexy and powerful. Someone who has been able to keep oneself pure for so long is seen as remarkable in my book. I'm sure there are others who disagree, but I for one find that it is sexy for a woman to have saved herself for her husband (or vice versa).

And I find it masochistic to have deprived oneself of pleasure because a repressed society tells you "that's what nice girls do."

Or is this one of those "pleasure is selfish" things? Yes, I suppose sex can be selfish, but it's much better when it's not. What kind of bass-ackward society declares pleasure to be sinful? The idea that selfishness is sinful is called Altruism, and that's almost as bad. At least altruism doesn't prevent one from sharing physical intimacy with a significant other and giving each other sexual pleasure and release.

The special thing about virginity is that you can only have one first time. While saving that one special first time for the one you intend to marry is a very nice romantic notion, I'm not so sure it's a good idea.

First times generally tend to be awkward. They often turn out disappointing, and they can sometimes be excessively painful. My first time was only slightly awkward, but I had previously studied up on biology, anatomy, physiology, and pornography. I will always remember my first time, but it only got better from there. And I consider that to be one of the better results one can expect the first time.

I've never been with a virgin (not that I have all that much experience to begin with) but I admit I would enjoy the role of the gentle teacher, guiding an eager, anxious, trusting pupil into the wondrous world of mature sexuality.

As romantic and sexy as the idea may be, it is anachronistic. It is a holdover from days long past and better forgotten. Particularly the thing about remaining a virgin until one's wedding night. Why would anyone want to commit to spending the rest of their life in a monogamous relationship with someone before they have any idea whether they are sexually compatible?

If you're retaining your virginity because of your devout religious faith, then I envy you your faith. But as a confirmed Agnostic, I can only reply with this quote from Robert Heinlein:

"Sin lies only in hurting other people unnecessarily. All other 'sins' are invented nonsense. (Hurting yourself is not sinful - just stupid.)" - Lazarus Long