Shy Guys

Thusly quoth "Young Girl, in need of a little advice":

I'm really in need of some advice. I'm 16, and female, and totally clueless when it comes to picking up on the 'signals' that guys send out. I'm a fairly shy person myself, but i love to flirt. But i just can't figure out how to tell when a guy is flirting back. For example, there's this guy, he's extremely shy, emotional, quiet, and alot of times, to himself.

If he seems very shy, but you get the impression that he might be flirting with you, the he probably is trying to flirt with you. Being a (slightly older) shy guy myself, I can say from experience that shy guys aren't very good at flirting. If you're interested in him, let him know. Flirt back. The next time you're alone with him, give him a look that says "kiss me, you fool!"

Shy guys are afraid. They're afraid of rejection, they're afriad of being hurt, and they're afraid of being wrong. Mostly, I was always afraid that if I took a chance, I might blow it, and I would only get one chance. So I waited for the best possible opportunity, and it never came. If you make it clear to him that you are interested, he might take that chance. If he seems to be shy, he probably is. If he's even giving you the slightest signs, he's probably hoping you'll pick up on them and give him a sign back.

Shyness is basically a lack of self-confidence. It's only natural to not be confident at something you've never done before. Find a way to show him, as clearly as possible, that you are interested. It can be as simple as a look. That worked for me. When he realizes that you are interested, he'll probably take that risk and make his interest more obvious. Shy guys are very defensive, and they won't show their interest clearly until they are pretty sure they won't be rejected.

If you make it clear to him that you won't reject him, he'll probably make his move immediately. Of course, this means that you're taking that risk of being rejected if he actually isn't interested, but oner of you has to take that risk in order for either of you to find out. If he's too shy, it's up to you.

And do you think that it's wrong for a girl to be a little bit older than the guy, such as 11 months? I'd really appreciate any advice you could give, thanks so much... ;)

There's nothing wrong with the female being a bit older. And 11 months may seem significant to you now, but it's really not all that much. One of my friends had a wonderful relationship with a woman several years older than himself.

When I was in high school, I fell in love with one of my female friends. We were both too shy, so we didn't find out that we were both in love with each other until it was too late, and we were already committed to going to college seven hours away from each other. Is the possibility of making each other incredibly happy worth the risk of being rejected? It would have been for me. Don't make the same mistake I made.